I’m frequently asked, by clients, friends, family, passersby in the grocery store:
“Can I have ___________ (insert food of choice, here)? Is this enough? Too much?
And because I’ve made it my charge to teach people how to feel good, look good and still have a life; also, to restore health in those who find themselves straying further and further from the wellness end of the illness-wellness continuum, you’d think I have the answer. But, I don’t. And you know something? I’m glad I don’t. Because even if I did, it doesn’t serve either of us. I’d prob be a pretty shitty coach, and you, the client/friend/family/passerby, learn absolutely nothing, save for an opportunity to hone your listening skills when I tell you what to do. #nothappening
*Bottom line: You are the best expert in you; not me, not anyone else.
The best way to know if you can have X, if it’s too much or too little is to try it. Then, monitor, watch and see how you do, adjusting higher/lower according to hunger, energy and cravings (HEC a la Metabolic Effect); also mood, stress and sleep. Trying something once (e.g. adding a serving of carb in the evening, fat or protein somewhere in your day, whatever), even 2-4 weeks (my reco), is not going to add inches to your waistline overnight. Honestly, you could even down a whole pizza (not my reco) and, save for some water retention, you will not add 10 lbs of fat while you sleep. Promise. Worst-case scenario? The old way will be there waiting for you if you need it.
*hint: You can have anything you want; anytime. Just not everything. You CHOOSE what goes into your mouth always. Bear in mind also that, if it works for you, it works.
I sent this exact blurb to a client last week, and thought it might help you to better understand what I’m talking about; explain my approach. This client was looking for a meal plan after I made a single reco a la #ONEchange Method, saying that this “left some blanks for the rest of the day.” And this client couldn’t have been more right, but it was totally intentional on my part.
My response:
‘The reason I don’t “do” meal plans in the traditional sense is because they make us fatter in the long run. Sure I can say, ‘Susie, eat this’ and get you results, but what happens when I go away or the plan stops working and you’ve learned nothing about Susie in terms of your metabolic tendencies, psychological sensitivities and personal preferences? Or, you get so sick of following someone else’s ‘perfect’ plan, having harnessed the willpower for so long, white-knuckled your way through a diet plan that you don’t really enjoy, that you throw in the towel and “What the hell? This sucks. I’m done.” In this scenario, all you’ve learned is to “eat what Emily says to eat;” nothing about Susie. You’ve come to me, presumably, because these other “plans” didn’t work, or have stopped working, no?
I understand the appeal of one-size fits all meal plans: fast fixes that get results, but always fail. By taking the time to figure out you, understanding why we do what we do, we will come up with a plan that is uniquely your own that you can do… forever <=== the perfect plan. Forever plan ===> forever results.’
So there. I said it. I don’t do, won’t do meal plans, but not because I don’t like you. Or because I’m trying to set you up to fail. I want to you succeed. Really, I do. But rewarding is it when you get ‘there’ on your own; with me serving only as your guide to teach you and to give you the tools you need to navigate this journey on your own.
Consider this ===> Why be a sailor, officer when you can be large and in charge? Life is more exciting as the captain of your own ship, no?
If you’re ready to begin the journey to the best version of yourself but don’t know where to start, I have a just a *few* spots open for one-on-one coaching with me. Deets here. Questions? Let me know!
